How we made a Baby.

Baby E is now 3 months old, and my mind is drifting back to his time last year when we were lucky enough to conceive him. We conceived Baby E on the 16th February, yes, you guessed it, he is a valentines baby!



I was 32, and had made up my mind I wanted a baby within the next year. I was tired from working long hours, was a long term sufferer of migraines, and had already started a course of acupuncture in the summer to give me more energy. I wondered how I would cope with fitting a baby into our busy lifestyle, so knew I had lots to sort out before a baby could come along. I decided to adopt a new healthier lifestyle.



My new healthy lifestyle meant a trip to a nutritionist who gave me a list of foods I was intolerant to and therefore food to avoid, a course of acupuncture, and coming off the contraceptive pill. This all started at the beginning of December 2007. Getting pregnant was never on the list of things to achieve, however would be a welcome blessing. My new lifestyle free from medicine meant we had to find an alternative form of contraception. I wanted to be more in tune with my body, so decided to use Persona http://www.persona.info/uk/index.php to help me understand my monthly cycle. It seemed the perfect contraceptive for us, and I ticked all the boxes as a suitable user.



Persona was easy. After the required waiting time following coming off the contraceptive pill, I started to to use it. Each morning I would wee on a little stick, and pop the stick into the Persona machine. The machine then tracks your ovulation cycle. When Persona gives a green light it is telling you that you may have sex with no risk of pregnancy. When Persona gives a red light it is telling you that you are at risk of becoming pregnant if you have unprotected sex.



We had been using Persona for a few weeks. The most negative aspect I could find was that it put me in control of when we could or could not have penetrative sex. I had seen my Fabulous Boyfriend looking at the machine in the mornings, so I started to assume he knew if we were at risk of becoming pregnant. I decided to stop telling him each morning if it was a red or green day (I was starting to feel like the parent in our relationship, telling him when he could or could not play with his favourite toy).



The morning of the 16th February 2008, Persona showed a red light. As we were nearing the end of some passionate love making, it became apparent that my Fabulous Boyfriend had either not looked at Persona that morning, or he had looked but did not understand what Persona had to tell him. I expected him to do the honourable thing and withdraw when was close to climaxing, however he did not!!!



Rather than being shocked at my Fabulous Boyfriend's act, I laughed. I genuinely found it funny that he was so naughty, and I did not think for one moment we would actually make a baby. I explained that Persona had given a red light, and he suggested I should have told him as he did not know, and never knows what Persona is doing. To this day, my Fabulous Boyfriend tells me he thinks I withheld the red light information as I had the intent to get pregnant. I believe he knew that Persona was showing a red light, and did not withdraw so we could get pregnant. Maybe it was the twinkle in his eye, or the way he jumped up and down with excitement when my period was late that arose my suspicions ... we will never know.

It was all forgotten by the next morning, until Persona told me I was ovulating over the next 2-3 days. I called down the hallway to my Fabulous Boyfriend, letting him know that Persona had told me we could have made a baby. I never thought for one minute we would actually get pregnant. It would never be that easy! My fabulous Boyfriend's reaction was "Yippee".



I laugh to myself when I look back at this time. Only a few weeks before conception, we had had a conversation about starting a family. I had told my Fabulous Boyfriend that I wanted a baby in the next year. He had laughed at a statement I had made about not wanting to be pregnant during the hay fever season, and he asked me when he would need to impregnate me! He thought it was too planned, preferring to live life as it comes. Soon we would find out we would not have to wait that long for our little bundle of joy to arrive.


I am so happy that we made Baby E out of love. There was no stress involved, or pressure to conceive, just the two of us making love. I look at Baby E now, and feel so happy to have made him. He is so beautiful, and has made our lives complete.

Valentines day with a baby

How to do valentines with a three month old baby???

We decided to include Baby E in all our Valentines plans. We always go out for a meal, and decided that lunch was better than taking him out for dinner and disturbing everyone's romantic meal.

We picked our favourite local pub, the Bulls Head.

http://www.vintageinn.co.uk/thebullsheadthringstone/

They have lots of seating areas, and delicious food. Whilst we think of this as a relaxed eating environment, perfect for taking children, there is no doubt in my mind the locals think of it as quite posh, so we still have the risk of ruining peoples romantic meal if Baby E is not happy.

We decided not to book (as the pub told us there was no need). It was quite busy, with lots of young couples taking a moment to enjoy themselves. We found a small corner with a sofa to sit on, that was perfect for us and Baby E. Baby E was quite well behaved, needing lots of hugs, and walks around the pub to satisfy his curiosity which kept him quiet. After we had eaten our starter and nearly finished our main course he fell asleep. This is a classic Baby E move as we had been playing lunch time baby relay for an hour! I managed to resist desert this time, as all the food is on the “band list”. Instead I thought of all the food we had at home waiting for us (along with Champagne).

We exchanged gifts first thing. My fabulous boyfriend wrote a lovely poem in my card. He always writes me poems, and they normally make me cry. For some reason there were no tears this time. Perhaps I have used my hormones so much over the last year, that they have run out??? He mentioned later that he was not entirely happy with the second verse. Perhaps my lack of tears has disappointed him. My fabulous boyfriend gave me some Ted Baker Silk Negligee. He always buys me the perfect gift. I wore it in the evening when Baby E was in bed, and we got up to some serious love making on the sofa. My boyfriend had lit a roaring fire, that made the room sooo toasty and warm, it would have been rude not to get undressed!!! He made me tingle in a way never seen since I was pregnant. I don’t know how he does it, but he knows how to hit the spot, and hit it hard.

Even though we were not able to eat our lunch looking into each others eyes, and most of the time we were on our own, I thought it was the perfect Valentines Day ever. Having Baby E makes everything perfect (and my fabulous boyfriend gave me the perfect ending!!!).